Nessas Place

My sweet Max passed away last night. I've been preparing myself for this for days, but praying I was wrong. Unfortunately I wasn't and now I am just trying to think of the fun we had and be happy for the time we had him. I know max died knowing he was loved. He was cared for, he was a member of the family and a wonderful friend.

In his memory, I want to tell people that technically Max should have died long ago. Be it from starvation, being attacked by both humans and animals or just being alone on the street.

I posted something funny the other day that I want to retract a bit. My little joke ended with " if your dogs/cats get pregnant you can sell their children". It was a joke, meant to be cute. In retrospect, I want to stress it's really not.

My personal belief is that most pet owners are irresponsible and shouldn't be entrusted with furry children who can't defend or speak for themselves. How many people do you know who saw that cute fuzzy furbaby in the Wal-Mart parking lot and they vow he's the cutest they've ever seen. Then when he poops on the floor, marks his territory and isn't quite as cute anymore, he's thrown out in the yard and forgotten about? Sure, food might be put out for him, but he did what dogs/cats do. He did the same thing your kids do, you just can't throw them out legally.

There are so many animals out there who need homes. Need someone to love them. I strongly advocate adopting animals from pound that only allows adoption with a spay/neuter clause. Why? Because if you have to invest actual money to get the baby, the chances are better that they'll be taken care of. They become an investment. Plus, if they aren't taken care of after adoption, they at least can't make more babies that someone else won't take care of.

If you do get them for free, be responsible and spay/neuter your dog unless you know for sure you can keep them safe. My Minnie is 12 years old and has never had a litter of puppies. She's been kept safe. When she's in heat she's not allowed out. Period. I've made sure i never had any male dogs who could breed with her and even those that are too big to be an issue are neutered. Sure accidents happen even to responsible owners. In that case, be prepared to keep the babies unless you ensure that the home those babies are going to will be a home they will be loved in and always cared for in.

if you're child has a child would you see it just go off into anyone's hands? Of course not, so love your furbabies the way you would the 2 legged variety. In the long run the furbabies love you no matter what and they never talk back. Even when you forget to pet them or buy their favorite treat they're more than willing to forgive you. Give them the same love back and nothing less.

Love you Max

Mommy

Yesterday I was talking to a good friend about what a creep her hubby is. She happens to agree so this is okay. I was pretty much just commiserating. Anyway, I was explaining to her that his lies to others are part of his inability to accept that he basically knows he isn't worth anything. So he lies about others and how they are so that he looks better. My ex was really good at this.

In the midst of this discussion, I was going to point her to my ex's myspace page so she could see what a hypocrite he is. The point was to show her that con men are plentiful.

Now realize, i normally never EVER look at his myspace page. The last time I saw it was 4 years ago when he tried to be my son's friend on myspace. I just know that he's a creep and that the basics would still be the same. Unlike SOME people, I don't give others power over me to make me want to check their myspace/blog and such everyday. Like any sane person, I avoid those I don't like. Well that and I don't have any self confidence issues like SOMEONE i could name but won't.

Anyway, So i get to creepola's page and i see these things about how he's a proud Daddy and how the latest love of his life is about to be born. Now I have no ill will towards a child of course. All i feel is pity anyway for anyone who gets involved in anyway with this man. Especially anyone who has no choice in the matter. He has 8 kids now from what I understand and he's never taken care of a single one of them. His normal modus operandi is to take off within a year and there's usually a kidnapping involved in there at one point or another if he thinks it will get him sympathy with his even weirder family. His sister is desperate to have another baby and tries to take over any of his kids if at all possible. It's a rather sick game but they package it to newcomers by explaining that they had no choice because the mother is abusive/uncaring/lazy, just basically whatever makes them sound not totally f*cked up.

So anyway, i was really hacked off to see this crap since I know that there's yet another child destined for nothing but heartache and disappointment as well as being potentially abused. I swear i'd give just about anything for someone to just castrate him lol. I know that's mean but you just have no idea how horrible a person this man really is.

I told you before i'm embarrassed that i can even be connected to him, except for having my Tyler who i am immensely proud of. All I can say in my defense is I was totally fooled by him. Thank God that with age comes wisdom and i'll be sure neverrrrrrrr to be that damn dumb again lol.

Anyway, I guess what goes around comes around and someday he'll get what's coming to him whatever that may be. Personally i could care less since he just isn't worth any time or energy from me, but i sure feel sorry for these new babies he's made, looks like there's 3 new ones in all. Not sure of the time frame, but 3 new kids is alot of kids regardless. Hopefully the kids have Moms that will be there for them to help them with how they'll be treated by him.

Nessa

Well, Max has taken a turn for the worse. I had thought he was going to come through this okay, but now i'm not so sure. He's not in pain, he's not suffering, but he's weak and even with the antibiotics, steroids and TLC he's getting it just may not be enough.

I'm not giving up on him, I believe if any doggie can pull through this, it's him. He's a survivor, but i'm not sure he's wanting to survive anymore. Everything that can be done is being done and it's just up to Maxxy now to either fight and move past it or to move on. I love him no matter what happens and i'm happy for whatever time we have him. Hopefully he'll be okay though.

Anyway, just thought i'd give a quick update while I had a second. Please keep a nice thought for Max, he needs it badly.

Nessa

Too Cute not to share. Enjoy :)

Nessa


The following was found posted very low on a refrigerator door.

Dear Dogs and Cats: The dishes with the paw prints are yours and
contain your food. The other dishes are mine and contain my food.
Placing a paw print in the middle of my plate and food does not stake a
claim for it becoming your food and dish, nor do I find that
aesthetically pleasing in the slightest.

The stairway was not designed by NASCAR and is not a racetrack. Racing
me to the bottom is not the object. Tripping me doesn't help because I
fall faster than you can run.

I cannot buy anything bigger than a king sized bed. I am very sorry
about this. Do not think I will continue sleeping on the couch to
ensure your comfort, however. Dogs and cats can actually curl up in a
ball when they sleep. It is not necessary to sleep perpendicular to
each other, stretched out to the fullest extent possible. I also know
that sticking tails straight out and having tongues hanging out on the
other end to maximize space is nothing but sarcasm.

For the last time, there is no secret exit from the bathroom! If, by
some miracle, I beat you there and manage to get the door shut, it is
not necessary to claw, whine, meow, try to turn the knob or get your paw
under the edge in an attempt to open the door. I must exit through the
same door I entered. Also, I have been using the bathroom for years -
canine/feline attendance is not required.

The proper order for kissing is: Kiss me first, then go smell the other
dog or cat's butt. I cannot stress this enough.

Finally, in fairness, dear pets, I have posted the following message on
the front door:

TO ALL NON-PET OWNERS WHO VISIT AND LIKE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT OUR PETS:

(1) They live here. You don't. (2) If you don't want their hair on
your clothes, stay off the furniture. That's why they call it
'fur'-niture. (3) I like my pets a lot better than I like most people.
(4) To you, they are animals. To me, they are adopted sons/daughters
who are short, hairy, walk on all fours and don't speak clearly.

Remember, dogs and cats are better than kids because they (1) eat less,
(2) don't ask for money all the time, (3) are easier to train, (4)
normally come when called, (5) never ask to drive the car, (6) don't
hang out with drug-using people; (7) don't smoke or drink, (8) don't
want to wear your clothes, (9) don't have to buy the latest fashions,
(10) don't need a gazillion dollars for college and (11) if they get
pregnant, you can sell their children

I was reading Yahoo news this morning and saw that Obama is planning to try and cut the national debt. I don't even pretend to get how that works and I won't go into what i think should be done about it really. I'll just say "how about people/countries start paying us BACK?"

Anyway, my neighbors are being foreclosed on. I feel horribly sorry them. He works even more than I do and makes good money. She moved here from the Philippines I think she said. She shops all day, orders take out every day and refuses to work more than 10 hours a week at a local shop that pays her very little. If she would work at least 30 hours per week at even a place like Walmart, not shop for things she ends up giving away on Freecycle anyway or that she "plans" to sell on eBay and actually buy groceries they could probably have avoided this. Now don't get me wrong, she's a wonderful, very sweet person and she does try to do a great deal for others, she just has it in her head that her moving here meant she'd marry a great guy who'd work alot and she'd never have to again. It's her version of the American dream. She was taught that she COULD do this.


I feel bad for them but even the debt management program they enrolled in told her she had to cut out these activities more than a year ago. They warned her that her rate of spending and the lack of extra income to cover it would bring about this latest fiasco. Guess what? They were right.

So today they have an appt with a credit counseling company who feel that they can help them with some of this. She swears that if they can help them she will change her ways and i think she seems sincere. Like I said she's a truly wonderful person and it's as much his fault as hers since he didn't put his foot down and get her to see that he was killing himself to cover her shopping and not able to cover everything else as well.

Hopefully they can hang on just a bit longer and are able to get some help with the whole thing. I'm afraid that he'll blame her if they lose the house and it will hurt if not kill their relationship. She's worried about that as well.

We talked yesterday and I'm supposed to take her grocery shopping with me and help her learn to get a good deal as well as sort of force her to use her English skills. She's hard to understand sometimes but mostly because she only practices on him and he's usually working. I also have to help her this week to load her stuff on eBay. She has 2 rooms of crap that she's bought thinking she could sell and it's made a huge mess. They have a 4 bedroom house and 2 bedrooms are completely full of stuff and one is being started on. I'm HOPING i can talk her into a yard sale first, then load what doesn't sell on EBay. It will make things much easier.

Anyway, here's hoping Better gets here soon, I might not like the new neighbors lol.

Nessa

Well this morning Max seems better. His eyes are brighter and his tail is wagging with more enthusiasm. Like he really means it now instead of the pathetic thump of the last couple days.

I found a vet to see him yesterday and he apparently has some sort of infection. He's also congested and in a bit of pain. The vet said it could go either way at this point. He did a panel to check his bodily functions and organs and said that the results were relatively good considering Max had been a starving stray just 8 months ago. Max is also up to 50 pounds now too. He still seems so freakin skinny though.

Anyway, now i get to pay the vet off for about 6 months and hopefully Max will be back to his old self in no time. It's looking hopeful at any rate.

Nessa

I don't know how i missed this but I totally never saw this on the official Heffer site. I'd share where it is but trust me, you're happier not knowing lol.

Anyway, Heffer E posted this and I thought it was funny. It's probably not everyone's cup of tea so be forewarned, it's a bit ummmmmmm, snarky lol. Skip now if you are easily offended.

Nessa

AS I’VE MATURED ……..
I've learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in... ( this kinda scares me.....my stalkers goal perhaps? I'm not into girls!!)

I've learned that one good turn gets most of the blankets.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just jackasses.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

I've learned that whatever hits the fan will not be evenly distributed.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others - they are more screwed up than you think.

I've learned that depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.

I've learned that it is not what you wear; it is how you take it off.

I've learned that you can keep vomiting long after you think you're finished.

I've learned to not sweat the petty things, and not pet the sweaty things.

I've learned that ex's are like fungus, and keep coming back.

I've learned age is a very high price to pay for maturity.

I've learned that I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy it.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, unless we are celebrities.

I've learned that artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.

I've learned that 99% of the time when something isn't working in your house, one of your kids did it

I've learned that there is a fine line between genius and insanity.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon and all the less important ones just never go away.

And the real pains in the ass are permanent. (gawd that's almost worse than the first one!)

Nessa

That would be me. Max, our doggie who some of you helped name is sick. I don't know what's going on, but he's got blood in his urine. ALOT of it. I called last night looking for an animal hospital to see him but none were open. I'm hoping something will be open today to see him. He doesn't appear to be in pain really, just uncomfortable. But then again when he'd been shot, attacked by other dogs and was in shock he acted like he was just having a bad day. He's such a tough guy.

Tyler is pretty much flipping out. Max and him are the best of friends. Max will literally do ANYTHING for Tyler and they have forged a great friendship in their time together so far. Soooooooooo, I have to do whatever is needed to try and make sure they have lots more time together.

Keep sweet thoughts for him please. This poor doggie has been through enough hell in one lifetime to fill 100 and he just needs to be okay.

Nessa

I wanted to be Wonder Woman. She was like Barbie but with cool powers and an invisible plane too if Justice League Cartoons were to be believed. I'm sure they were honest, I mean really, they're the good guys right? Well, there were those annoying Wonder Twins who I am positive were actually some sort of demon spawn sent to infiltrate the justice league no matter how much good they did, but other than that the rest were cool.

So anyway, after i grew up a little a few years ago and realized I could never be Wonder Woman, i decided the next best thing would be to try and help people as much as possible. Not necessarily in a financial way, but merely through kindness. Like a card to say I care, clean a sick neighbors house or cook for them. Easy stuff that simply helps others.

So that's what I did. I used craft supplies I had to make things for children in a Mexican orphanage that our church sponsored. I made little stuffed animals, hair accessories and small things that I would send with the church when they did they're yearly Mexico trip. It's a very gratifying feeling and cost me very very little. I still make lap blankets for elderly persons in nursing homes with scrap yarns too. So many of them have no one who cares and very few of their own possessions so they are quite proud of their little lap blankets when they get them. I'm also considering starting to crochet bible covers for them. That's one thing they almost ALL seem to have.

So anyway, i really digressed from the point of this post. The POINT was to tell you about something I found out this morning. Ya know how you get those gift cards and there's this small amount left over that you can't use? Or what about the ones that people send you that you don't want to use? Welllllllllllll, Wish Upon A Hero can help you with that AND you can help them grant wishes by donating those cards to them.

It took me over an hour to find out how to do it so i'll just tell you here rather than send you to look yourself. Instructions are here

You can sign up for the site or not, that's up to you. There are some really sad stories there, I wish I had the money to grant all their wishes.

Anyway, when you have those gift cards, consider giving leftover amounts to them to do some wonderful things.

This is not a paid post or anything, just something I thought i should share.

Nessa

I usually post this stuff at According To Nessa but lately i haven't been posting there much at all. Not really sure why since i went to all the trouble to redo it lol. I am going to post over there shortly about some coffee I bought that I will definitely never buy again though, so check later for that. Anyway, I gave myself permission to post them here this time since some of them are pretty neat. Check em out of you get a chance.

They're all courtesy of Bzz Agent. If you aren't a member there yet, sign up, they have some fantastic campaigns to try great products, all for free.

Free online video's for kids, great selections! Visit Totlol

Got something you want to clean but nothing is working or you aren't sure how to do it without hurting or destroying it? Visit How To Clean Stuff. This is really cool!

Love Animals? Want to help them? This is a great site period but you can also help feed pound babies for free by clicking on ads and there's also a shop with really cute stuff in it at very nice prices. Visit The Animal Rescue Site

And.........those video games your kids are playing.....you wouldn't believe how seemingly innocent games are far from anything you want your kids taking in to their heads. I was shocked over some that I really thought were okay! Want to see what your kids are REALLY playing? Check out What They Play: The Parents Guide to Video Games

Nessa

A good friend of mine was telling me this morning that with all her health issues and hospital bills she's been looking into debt elimination companies. She's been having a pretty tough go of it lately and unable to work as much as she used to. She was finally diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis about 5 months ago after being in pain for over 2 years. Basically, her body is just refusing to cooperate with her and the meds they have her on aren't working as well as they could or she wishes they would.

Anyway, when things started going south for her in the financial area i told her "destroy your credit cards!!!" I knew that she was going to rely on them more as her income dwindled and now she's in way over her head because she didn't listen to me. Not that I really expected her to. I know she had to do what she felt was right at the time and she had bills to pay. A huge catch 22 really.

So now she's had to apply for disability due to the fact that it really is almost impossible for her to work and support herself on her own. She wants to get her debt down to a manageable amount and make it as easy as possible for herself to pay it all off rather than consider bankruptcy. She had considered at one point also applying for bad credit loans since this whole thing has pretty much killed her credit rating. I'm hoping she just gets with a credit counselor and tries to get it all in order so she can combine it all into one payment. That's the easiest way I can think of for her to deal with it and not have to worry so much.

One thing for sure......i am sooooooo glad I don't use credit cards.

Nessa
PS: I'm not being insensitive to her with the pic above lol, she chose it.

One of my favoritest bloggy friends, Tammy, tagged me for this and since she asked and I haven't done any in awhile I figured I'd play along. Plus, I can't lie, I love Memes.

Soooooooooo here's the Rules:

1. Go to your Picture Folder on your computer or wherever you store your pictures.
2. Go to the 6th Folder and then pick the 6th Picture.
3. Post it on your bloggy and tell the story that goes with the picture.
4. Tag 5 other glorious peoples to do the same thing and leave a comment on their bloggy tellin’ them ’bout it.



This is Ash and I when she was about 10, Tyler took the pic.

So who am I tagging? Lets see here.....how about.......
Sherrie, Sharon, Jodi, the one and only 1stopmom and last but not least, Monica.

As always, please feel free not to participate if you don't like meme's. I'll cry and stuff but i'll get over it. ::grin::

Nessa

For those who don't know, Heffermail is the product of my group of friends. We call ourselves "Heffers" which in this case basically means we have a bit of an attitude and has nothing to do at all with anything bovine. Most things passed between us aren't fit to share with the outside world lol. Every now and then though a little gem comes through.

While I don't COMPLETELY agree with this, it's still funny.


Nessa

I haven't checked my sisters blog yet to see what she's said about this but here's the latest developments on Hanna for those of you who don't read over there yet.

Basically my fears may have been confirmed. Her doctor did some tests on her including a Purine Panel and found that it's possible that Hanna is Autistic. IF and that's a big if at this point, she is Autistic, she is only mildly so and can likely be treated with dietary changes and supplements, etc. Regardless of if it's mild or not this wasn't something I wanted to be right about but i've said many times that i believed she had some autistic tendencies. I almost feel like i jinxed her or something. I know logically i didn't of course but it still pisses me off that maybe i read this one right.

She is going to have some more tests this week i believe to see if this is a definite diagnosis. I'm hoping the seizures she had before the last test just threw things off and that it's all just a mistake.

Bottom line, pleeeeease keep her in your prayers. Even if this is confirmed she's going to be just fine. Autism isn't a death sentence and this could be sooooooooo much worse. We all realize that and are grateful for it. It doesn't make it any less hard to deal with though. She has enough trouble with the seizures and I just want to see her get a damn break ya know? She has other problems that she has to deal with that I haven't even discussed so it's not JUST the seizures this has been heaped upon.
Not that she has anything really bad either, it's just one thing on top of another that's getting to us all.

Typing all this, all I can think is, Poor Hanna, but i'm also thanking God for it not being worse at the same time. Feels like sorta being between a rock and a hard place. Thankful but asking "why her?" too.

Anyway, keep her in your thoughts and prayers please and cross your fingers that the last test was just off. She just simply doesn't need anymore trouble. No matter how mild or treatable it is.

Nessa

I know i was missed terribly right? Uh huh, i see ya in tears so happy that I returned lol.

Okay maybe not, but i'm back anyway. I had a wonnnnnnnnnnnderful weekend and I hope everyone had as nice a V-day weekend as i did. I really mean that.

So today I have a funny to tell ya.

I bought a latte at sonic Friday....they're version anyway. I got to the window to pay for it and the twit at the window decided to edjimicate me. Here's how it went:

Idiot: I hope you don't mind but i wanted to let you know that when you ordered your drink you said it wrong. I don't mind but others might make fun of you for not knowing how to say things. You said "lot-tay" but it's really pronounced "lat", that's the rule for double t's.

Me " Uhhhhhhhhhh, okaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy"

Idiot: people can be so confused with those things sometimes so you shouldn't feel funny or anything that you didn't know how to say it

Me: Ya don't say?

Idiot: oh yeah ya wouldn't believe the people we meet up in here and the way they say thangs.

Me: Well uhhhhhh okayyyyyyyyyy, regardless, before you correct another customer, i suggest you go home this evening and look up how to pronounce it.

Idiot: Oh i'm sorry, I wasn't trying to offend or anything, i just didn't want you to be embarrassed

Me: IF you look it up and can understand how to read pronunciations you just might realize i'm not the one who'd be embarrassed, but i will say since you probably were born in this town and went to the school here, it's likely not your fault. Hope that helps, can i have my "law-tay" now?

As one of The Heffers said "It's scary that she will likely breed too". UGH!

Nessa

I've been trying to plan an upcoming birthday for maximum fun at a minimum price. Since it'll be for "adults" that's harder than i'd have thought. Where I live the basic birthday parties for adults are barbecues with alot of alcohol, lake fun with alot of alcohol and ummmmmmm.......well pretty much anything involving alcohol and if a bbq pit can be involved that's just that much better.

I'm not a typical person around here. I like to actually DO things and I'm very much not into alcohol. One here and there is fine but anything actually revolving around it is rather immature and not setting a good example for The Bratz.

Sooooooooo, I was thinking of making some use of these paintball guns that i bought my boys a few years ago. There are some places here that are set up for paintball wars that don't cost much. I think it looks like great fun so this might just be what we decide to do. I checked into it yesterday and the place charges $50 for 3 hours. That's pretty reasonable considering we can run around like fools shooting each other with paint.

The only thing to buy is a few paintball accessories and i have a little time to save up so i'm thinking this could be the way i go. We'll see how it plays out but I think it'll be fun.

Nessa

Nessa